tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.comments2023-09-25T09:18:10.052-04:00Lylah M. AlphonseLMAlphonsehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01123069425655953518noreply@blogger.comBlogger395125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-3089274909577601872014-02-11T11:50:58.379-05:002014-02-11T11:50:58.379-05:00I'm a working stepmother. His ex-wife does not...I'm a working stepmother. His ex-wife does not look at my working schedule the same. Not that I expect her to. She doesn't like his schedule because he can't be at every practice, game and other events his children have, just like he can't with mine. He works retail so his schedule is a mess. He works until 6pm at night and doesn't get home until 6:30. He does all he can for his kids, but as those who work in retail know, you don't work normal 8-4 or 9-5 hours.<br /><br />And since I work from home, it's not considered real work to his ex, so she has no issues with talking down about me and people like me to her children and anyone else who will listen. I'm expected to drop everything for her two kids. Now if her kid's dad did the same for mine, he's a bad father. She has a fit if he does anything for my children, but it's okay for her married boyfriend to do things for his kids.<br /><br />It's such a mess. I hate the doublestandards.Nicolehttp://frugalmaine.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-11116195336381284962014-01-21T16:23:05.041-05:002014-01-21T16:23:05.041-05:00Taking pictures of the car accident is extremely i...Taking pictures of the car accident is extremely important; having evidence to back your claims can help prevent insurance companies or the other person from screwing you over later on. I like your point about sending a text or call right after it happens so you can have a record of the time of accident, I hadn't thought about that before!<br /><br />-<a href="www.leojdunnlaw.com/boston-ma-personal-injury-lawyer/" rel="nofollow">James</a>James Mhttp://www.leojdunnlaw.com/boston-ma-personal-injury-lawyer/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-32440336014641374822013-09-25T08:35:21.749-04:002013-09-25T08:35:21.749-04:00I am not a feminist, but I don't know when wil...I am not a feminist, but I don't know when will I become like tht..I hope these programs on targeting <a href="http://www.kreataglobal.com/social-media-agency-dubai.html" rel="nofollow">Social Media Agencies</a> and users will be far effective.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18428248996926738839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-22564945691784295202013-09-21T21:39:35.179-04:002013-09-21T21:39:35.179-04:00This is gorgeous!This is gorgeous!Tobiashttp://bestcoffeemakers2013.usnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-45389526145412766082013-09-05T21:54:21.587-04:002013-09-05T21:54:21.587-04:00Those are good points, Arne. And I do have a tende...Those are good points, Arne. And I do have a tendency to bury the lede...<br /><br />She did say that she prays that her sons be patient and act honorably, but she also said "Did you know that once a male sees you in a state of undress, he can’t ever un-see it? You don’t want the Hall boys to only think of you in this sexual way, do you?” Which, to me, seems to say that it's the girls' actions, not her sons', that she considers the root of the problem. If the boys view the girls as a sexual object, it's the girl's fault for posting the pictures and forcing him to view her as a sexual object (He can't help it -- he can't "unsee" these things). My POV is that one has to address both the boys and the girls in order to solve the problem. You can't say "girls, don't treat yourselves like sex objects" without also saying "boys, don't treat girls like sex objects."<br /><br />My point about her daughter is an extension of that. Yes, I agree that "if boys have less respect for you because you posted slutty pictures of yourself online, it's probably your own fault." But nowhere in her post does she say that. She talks about boys seeing girls in a sexual way, and if a girl posts a questionable picture just once, anywhere, any time, she's branded by her sexuality rather than her personality or her accomplishments. To me, that's like saying that the girl is responsible for the boy's actions (not just his level of respect) toward her.LMAlphonsehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01123069425655953518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-44926369666661525892013-09-05T21:18:44.638-04:002013-09-05T21:18:44.638-04:00I have some issues with the conclusions of your la...I have some issues with the conclusions of your last paragraph.<br /><br />"But by blocking these girls on her sons’ social media accounts, she’s not just teaching her boys to be 'men of integrity' or 'men with a strong moral compass.'"<br /><br />I agree.<br /><br />"She’s also teaching them that only certain women deserve respect."<br /><br />I agree 100%, and she's wrong in doing so.<br /><br />"She’s teaching them that, if they can’t control themselves, it’s not their fault – those slutty girls shouldn't have posted those pictures to begin with."<br /><br />I disagree, and don't see the premise for this statement. She explicitly said "I also pray that my sons will be worthy of this kind of woman, that they will be patient – and act honorably – while they wait for her." This implies that she 100% expects her sons to act honorably, and I think it's more likely that failing to control themselves would be considered "dishonorable" or being "unworthy of this kind of woman." I don't believe the article in question assesses blame in the case of boys behaving badly, and if it does, the only meager evidence we have is that it would be the boys' fault, since such actions would be dishonorable. I suppose it's possible that the author believes that boys that are unable to control themselves are honorable and worthy (in which case your conclusion could be true), but I think that's counter-intuitive and unlikely. On that basis, I don't think your statement above is correct.<br /><br />"She’s teaching her sons to judge and shame others, rather than to forgive and inspire."<br /><br />100% agree again, and she's wrong in doing so. If anything, this is your strongest and most valuable conclusion (and you've buried the lede, oops).<br /><br />"And she’s teaching her young daughter that if a boy treats her badly, it’s probably her own fault."<br /><br />This one's iffy, given that I'm agreeing with you in some cases, but not others. What if the statement she wants to give her daughter is "if boys <i>have less respect for you</i> because you posted slutty pictures of yourself online, it's probably your own fault." Is that a true statement? Boys treating her badly is the BOYS fault, but boys having less respect for her because of poor decisions... wouldn't that be her own fault?Arnenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-27428074644027674412013-08-30T14:19:14.289-04:002013-08-30T14:19:14.289-04:00I think you missed the first paragraph of the blog...I think you missed the first paragraph of the blog post, where it says that the name of the book is "Hiroshima in the Morning." Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-86114368374640942942013-08-28T01:01:45.139-04:002013-08-28T01:01:45.139-04:00"Hiroshima Mom" is such a terrible, igno..."Hiroshima Mom" is such a terrible, ignorant, insulting phrase. Used so casually as a spin on the book title and comparison to the term "tiger mom" without any understanding of its implications and meaning on the Japanese community or survivors of the atomic bomb. What I am sure was not considered when this ignorant phrase was coined, was that there were thousands of actual mothers who survived the atomic bombing of Hiroshima on August 6, 1945. My grandmother being among those who lived in Hiroshima on that day and survived. Those women endured terrible hardship in the following years, trying to rebuild their lives, families, and communities. These women deserve more respect and compassion, and should not, in any way, shape, or form, be compared to a floozy of a mother who opted-out of her parenting responsibilities.<br />If we were to call this phenomenon "World Trade Center Mom," I am sure there would be more sensitivity paid to the matter. And I do not mean any disrespect to the brave women who suffered loss as a result of the World Trade Center tragedy and are still working to rebuild their own lives, families, and communities.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-20989551456600079702013-08-11T02:16:57.469-04:002013-08-11T02:16:57.469-04:00I get the birthday invite thing and OK with it. Bu...I get the birthday invite thing and OK with it. But a back to school party in a class of nine and you don't invite my twin sons? Seems a bit messed up. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-32570412818721857902013-05-09T12:22:29.188-04:002013-05-09T12:22:29.188-04:00Great interview. I am actually a fresh grad and I ...Great interview. I am actually a fresh grad and I need these tips. I am already considering to ask someone from <a href="http://www.expertresumewriter.ca" rel="nofollow">Interview Coaching Calgary</a> to help me in my resume and also for any possible interviews.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-21534239857000525352013-05-09T08:38:45.804-04:002013-05-09T08:38:45.804-04:00Thanks for your reminders! These are very basic po...Thanks for your reminders! These are very basic pointers that we often take for granted. Yes, accidents can leave you disoriented, but you should never lose your head. Assess yourself and the situation, trade information, and don't agree with everything the other party says. And of course, call for legal opinion immediately after the accident.Maggie Malonehttp://mastrangelolawoffices.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-51017903842880877622013-04-11T18:39:36.701-04:002013-04-11T18:39:36.701-04:00Thanks for sharing your pointers, Lylah. This enli...Thanks for sharing your pointers, Lylah. This enlightening post can be a great help to raise awareness on what to do in case an accident would happen. But I must agree that it would be a little hard for everyone to remember all these, so it's better to learn how to lose your panic in the face of an unfortunate event.<br /><br /><a href="http://mastrangelolawoffices.com/antioch-personal-injury-attorney/" rel="nofollow">Maggie Malone</a> Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02082809152879604221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-76059533518314865172013-03-15T13:54:36.456-04:002013-03-15T13:54:36.456-04:00I think those tips will come in handy in case of a...I think those tips will come in handy in case of a car crash. And I definitely have the same opinion on taking photos. Documentations and visual evidence can be a great help when you need to clear the air, and for legal and insurance claim purposes.{<a href="http://www.harlaninsurance.com/" rel="nofollow">Cayla Dupont</a>}Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03066227107008406172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-18105574275085789552013-02-24T08:01:29.670-05:002013-02-24T08:01:29.670-05:00When my chid was 4 and in preschool, I also assume...When my chid was 4 and in preschool, I also assumed we should invite the entire class or all of the girls in order to avoid hurt feelings. When I told my daughter about her choices she burst into tears ad started saying, "please don't invite ******* to my party. She is not nice to me." She had not told me that a little girl and 3 of her friends had told her they would never be her friends because they did not like her. Coming from a wonderful daycare and having an extremely friendly child, it had never occurred to me that at age 4 everyone would not be getting along and playing together. So that was my lesson in not inviting the whole class. The teacher was kind enough to hand invites to the parents when they arrived at pick up. We were very discreet. Sometimes in the pursuit of not hurting other children's feelings we expect our children to process things like an adult.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-23952938612226448722012-12-12T15:44:20.948-05:002012-12-12T15:44:20.948-05:00Thank you for sharing these pointers, Lylah. And I...Thank you for sharing these pointers, Lylah. And I definitely agree on your tip #4 about giving information. When you are involved in a car accident, it is important to give out details like name, contact information and what exactly happened, especially to your insurance company. When they have the necessary information, they can provide appropriate action and help you with your plight.Barry Bateshttp://www.acinsurance.ca/insurance-brokers-calgary-products/commercial-insurance/commercial-car-insurance-in-calgary.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-41412728251121893502012-06-25T18:03:01.366-04:002012-06-25T18:03:01.366-04:00My daughter is 6 years old her birthday is one day...My daughter is 6 years old her birthday is one day before her class mate We booked my daughters party and invited all the girls in her class 11 plus 2 boys We hand delivered the invites to the children's houses The very next day her class mate paraded around the playground giving out invitations for her party The child in question tells my daughter she hasn't invited her as she doesn't like her Still waiting to see if our invite is accepted.<br />I don't have a problem if she doesn't want to invite my daughter but I felt the comment was very mean and hurtfulAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-18475908812835502902012-06-09T19:20:31.274-04:002012-06-09T19:20:31.274-04:00I believe in exposing children to various things b...I believe in exposing children to various things but not forcing them. In today's competitive environment, many children face rejection from coaches and peers if they don't have the skills. The trick is to find something the child is good at and then you don't have to force them to do it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-25625871818999420912012-06-02T15:28:02.878-04:002012-06-02T15:28:02.878-04:00I love this man for stating that physical and arti...I love this man for stating that physical and artistic activities should be required parts of children's lives! Can anyone imagine saying "Would you like to go to school today, honey?" "No? okay, then." Heck no! Why should experience and education in the arts and atheletics be any different?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-70200117920496382082012-02-23T13:14:11.481-05:002012-02-23T13:14:11.481-05:00i agree im still in high school and about to drop ...i agree im still in high school and about to drop out its more complicated than it looks most people dont really understand how it just doesnt feel right to be in school. in my opinionAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-13017547121472999012011-12-12T12:10:18.022-05:002011-12-12T12:10:18.022-05:00What a wonderful interview! Informative, light, re...What a wonderful interview! Informative, light, relaxed, human.AIVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04419565177785450925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-70406760698625151732011-12-02T12:33:43.053-05:002011-12-02T12:33:43.053-05:00I will never consider leaving a child below 10 yea...I will never consider leaving a child below 10 years old. My daughter is 12 years old and she is responsible enough. She is usually alone at home after school while I am still at work. So I do any possible ways on how to protect her whenever I am not with her. I was so glad that last month, while reading an article on a blog, it mentioned that there was a service I could use to track my kids to be sure they were always in safe places. At the bottom it said I could follow the site anationofmoms and be entered in a drawing of 6 months free of the service. Not bad!http://anationofmoms.com/2011/08/protect-your-family-giveaway.htmlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-60724342481784272742011-11-12T14:19:02.998-05:002011-11-12T14:19:02.998-05:00I love the new hairstyle! Quite a talented artist....I love the new hairstyle! Quite a talented artist. As a Barbie collector I will have to take a look at the original post. <br /><br />Barbie did have some dolls with African American hair, one girl with long dreads and a second with very tight curly hair. The dolls did not sell very well, and since Matell is all about making money. Well the dolls were only out for about two years time.fibrowitchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14608225697605710313noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-29929365118915813832011-11-01T10:11:03.929-04:002011-11-01T10:11:03.929-04:00Excellent article, and quite a lot worth thinking ...Excellent article, and quite a lot worth thinking about. Thanks for posting it.<br /><br />http://www.muminawe.comMum In Awehttp://www.muminawe.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-78715876856920421122011-08-06T03:01:29.903-04:002011-08-06T03:01:29.903-04:00I found these wonderful cheap flashlights that get...I found these wonderful cheap flashlights that get their energy from being shaken. Never have to worry about batteries again.co2 blepharoplastyhttp://www.CalgaryEyelidSurgery.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9016381446402077042.post-53612914259134950472011-08-03T15:27:51.634-04:002011-08-03T15:27:51.634-04:00I found these wonderful cheap flashlights that get...I found these wonderful cheap flashlights that get their energy from being shaken. Never have to worry about batteries again. I carry clear packing tape also. It can act as a emergency window when you return to find a window has been broken.fibrowitchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14608225697605710313noreply@blogger.com